Father's Day gifts, a steel reflecting ball from son-in-law, it will be placed in the middle of a circle of Dogduck, Dinosaur, and whatever garden statuary I bring home by the same artist on this trip, and the Napoleon bowl hand-crafted by daughter on news of Nap's death, she and I will be getting matching tattoos of that Napoleon on our right arms, her on her upper arm, me on my forearm
Thrown two rounds of disc at Portage Lake, Portage Lake longer than a pitch-and-put but shorter than newer disc golf courses, 60 on Saturday, 62 (with ticks, laugh, stay in the fairway, Jeff) yesterday. L kayaks and paints from the kayak on Spring Lake, the small lake that's the backyard of the house we are renting. Roughly half the people wear masks in the grocery store in Ann Arbor, roughly nobody wears masks in the Meijers (the WalMart of Michigan) in Jackson. Lunch with the in-laws yesterday (when I got my Father's Day gifts) extremely OK. Hiking excellent, if my daughter has to live in Michigan at least it's near some of the best hiking on the southern tier of the lower peninsula. Jackson County sheriff's deputy followed me a mile or two yesterday though I think it incidental in this case. I can't read anything and writing is spurt, the local beer is delicious and the Durban Poison stunning - I said to L as we got off the Ohio Turnpike in Toledo to head north on 23 towards Ann Arbor, I wonder how far over the Michigan border before the first weed store billboard, a quarter-mile? - it was a hundred yards. Here's the view from our back porch.
Strange not to be worrying about Napoleon while on vacation hundreds of miles from home, this is new. Leaving to hike now then I will play Hudson Mills Disc Golf Course this afternoon while L paints and then C & I come over to sit on our screened-in back porch to watch the sunset. We caught a break with weather, no rain, so the app tells me, though end of next weekend. Frogs urp all night, and birdsong starts at first light and ends at pitch dark. I have no plans to link farm here and no plans to not link farm, I have no plans to bark here and no plans to not bark here. I am strangely not anxious about work like I've always been on vacation and not anxious I'm not anxious, this is new. On disc course yesterday one local started to talk clusterfuck and me and other two said please stop. As is custom on long drives to vacations in houses on a glacier lake or pond, Lampchop in the speakers, HEY! this is new
My husband and I were arguing about a bench we wanted to buy and put in part of our backyard, a part which is actually a meadow of sorts, a half acre with tall grasses and weeds and the occasional wild flower because we do not mow it but leave it scrubby and unkempt. This bench would hardly ever be used and in summer when the grasses were high would remain partially hidden from view. We both knew we wanted the bench to be made of teak so that it would last a long time in the harsh weather and so that we would never have to paint it. Teak weathers to a soft silver that might, in November or March, disappear into the gray hills that are the backdrop of our lives. My husband wanted a four foot bench and I wanted a five foot bench. This is what we argued about. My husband insisted that a four foot bench was all we needed, since no more than two people (presumably ourselves) would ever sit on it at the same time. I felt his reasoning was not only beside the point but missed it entirely; I said what mattered most to me was the idea of the bench, the look of it there, to be gazed at with only the vaguest notion it could hold more people than would ever actually sit down. The life of the bench in my imagination was more important than any practical function the bench might serve. After all, I argued, we wanted a bench so that we could look at it, so that we could imagine sitting on it, so that, unexpectedly, a bird might sit on it, or fallen leaves, or inches of snow, and the longer the bench, the greater the expanse of that plank, the more it matched its true function, which was imaginary. My husband mentioned money and I said that I was happier to have no bench at all, which would cost nothing, than to have a four foot bench, which would be expensive. I said that having no bench at all was closer to the five foot bench than the four foot bench because having no bench served the imagination in similar ways, and so not having a bench became an option in our argument, became a third bench. We grew very tired of discussing the three benches and for a day we rested from our argument. During this day I had many things to do and many of them involved my driving past other houses, none of which had benches, that is they each had the third bench, and as I drove past the other houses I could see a bench here and a bench there; sometimes I saw the bench very close to the house, against a wall or on a porch, and sometimes I saw the bench under a tree or in the open grass, cut or uncut, and once I saw the bench at the end of the driveway, blocking the road. Always it was a five foot bench that I saw, a long sleek bench or a broken down bench, a bench with a slatted back or a bench with a solid, carved back, and always the bench was empty. But I knew that for my husband the third bench was only four feet long and he saw always two people sitting on it, two happy or tired people, two people who were happy to be alive or two people tired from having worked hard enough to buy the bench they were sitting on. Or they were happy and tired, happy to have reached the end of some argument, tired from having had it. For these people, the bench was an emblem of their days, which were fruitful because their suffering had come to an end. On my bench, which was always empty, nothing had come to an end because nothing had begun, no one had sat down, though the bench was always there waiting for exactly that to happen. And the bench was always long enough so that someone, if he desired to, could lie all the way down. That day passed. Another day followed it and my husband and I began, once more, to discuss the bench. The sound of our voices revealed a renewed interest and vigor. I thought I sensed in him a coming around to my view of the bench and I know he sensed in me a coming around to his view of the bench, because at one point I said that a four foot bench reminded me of rough notes towards a real bench while a five foot bench was like a fragment of an even longer bench and I admitted it was at times hard to tell the difference. He said he didn’t know anything about the difference between rough notes and fragments but he agreed that between the two benches there was, possibly, just perhaps—he could imagine it—very little difference. It was, after all, only a foot we were talking about. And I think it was then, in both of our minds, that a fourth bench came into being, a bench that was only a foot long, a miniature bench, a bench we could build ourselves, though of course we did not. This seemed to be, essentially, the bench we were talking about. Much later, when the birds came back, or the leaves drifted downwards, or the snow fell, slowly and lightly at first, then heavier and faster, it was this bench that we both saw when we looked out the window at the bench we eventually placed in the meadow which continued to grow as if there were no bench at all.
“Life on earth is a whole, yet it expresses itself in unique time-bound bodies, microscopic or visible, plant or animal, extinct or living. So there can be no one place to be. There can be no one way to be, no one way to practice, no one way to learn, no one way to love, no one way to grow or to heal, no one way to live, no one way to feel, no one thing to know or be known. The particulars count.”
― Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life >/b>